I’m taking Sam’s advice, and we will promptly institute the Behavior Jar. Maybe Sam can tell us a bit more how she does. What are the rules?
We will start this weekend, and the rules will go something like this:
Cleaning up room
Making bed in the morning
Helping do the dishes (loading and unloading dishwasher)
Setting the table
Take bead away
for not listening (at home)
For not listen at school (separate bead)
And beads earn her:
5 beads movie on the weekend (at home)
2 beads one more show in the evening
5 beads going to park on the weekend
10 beads going to the movie theater
Something like that. We have to test it out to make sure these are enough beads.
My sister-in-law suggested that we all three sit down and discuss what the rules should be. That’s a good idea as it will keep her engaged and she is participating in the program. But I think these will be the major rules.
Our major battles are over what she will wear to school, and getting ready for bed. For school she constantly wants to wear a skirt with no tights. I keep telling her no because it’s cold. Bedtime she doesn’t want to wear pants, but in the morning she comes in our room and her little legs are FREEZING because she kicked off the blanket. For the skirt I usually let her wear it as long as she puts tights under it. And that is the battle. Yesterday, she cried all the way from the house to day care… and we walked.
This morning, the battle over the skirt was minimal because it’s freaking hot and humid here today, so she got to wear a skirt with no tights. And tomorrow is picture day, so I assume we can all calmly pick a dress for her to wear.